You are the one who makes things happen in your home. You cook the meals, clean the house (if they will let you put their stuff somewhere else), and you tend to the children. Even when you go away, they have to call and ask how things are supposed to go and they they need to do.
You are both physically, mentally, and emotionally exhausted. You ask yourself why am I the one who has to do it all. I just want some decent help. Not help that I have to oversee. Why does it have to be this way?
Exhaustion Can Lead to a Victim Mindset
Whenever you blame someone or something else for the way things are going in your life you are in a victim mindset. As the victim you are powerless to change the situation. You hand over all the power to other people or circumstances in your life.
It may sound like a bunch of excuses or like you are simply stating facts. If you are the mom described above you may say or think things like there are four of them and only one of me. Or why am I the only one who can do this? Can’t anyone else get it right? If I don’t do it then who will? Some has to do it. It has to be done.
Being a victim can cause an extra layer of exhaustion. You will experience mental exhaustion on top of the physical exhaustion. It’s like punching yourself in the face while complaining about the bruises you have.
Be the Hero in Your Story Instead
Most stories have a hero, so why not be the hero. The hero may still have struggles, but they take matters into their own hands. You can feel empowered as the hero in your story.
Empowerment brings around change a lot easier than the victim does. You may physically make changes to your life or you may not.
But the most rewarding change comes from changing how we think about our story. The hero of this story is the woman who is learning how to take care of herself while taking care of her family. She allows herself to feel both the good and bad emotions of life (without beating herself up over any of them.)
Physical exhaustion may continue, but you will be surprised how much more energy you have when you make yourself the hero of your story.
Need help becoming the hero of your story? I’d love to help you with that! Book a free 30 minute consultation call with me. Together we can begin exploring how you can be the hero of your own story.
Until Next Time
-Keira
