You find yourself in an emergency situation, life requires you to be on your game. But you feel discombobulated and out of sorts. How to do you show up for yourself and the situation at hand?
1. Take it as it comes
The first thing to do is take the situation as it comes. Most of the time emergency situations aren’t planned out in advance on what needs to be done. So the first thing you do is handle the scenario. Maybe you are taking someone to the hospital, calling 911, or any other number of things. Just allow your adrenaline to help you through the crisis.
2. Allow yourself to feel
After the initial crisis is over, give yourself grace to feel however you feel. Maybe you sad, scared, angry, hurt, dissappointed, etc. No feeling is wrong. But take time to feel that emotion.
Start by naming the emotions. Reminding yourself its okay to have these human emotions and their is a good reason you are having them. Then get into your body feel the emotion. You don’t want thoughts about what is going on, but physical sensations you feel in your body. Maybe you feel tense, heat or cold, perhaps you feel it moving around or it just sits still. Sometimes it may be hard and other times soft or squishy. Some emotions may seem to have a color to them. There is no right or wrong answer to how you feel an emotion in your body. The important part is that you allow yourself to feel the emotion.
3. Emotions come and go
Emotions are like waves at the beach. They tend to come and go. When you first feel an emotion it might be like a bigger wave, and as you allow them they become smaller. The goal isn’t to rid yourself of the emotion, but just to allow it to be there.
If we resist having these emotions, its like shoving a beachball under the water. You can keep them hidden for awhile, but they will eventually come back up. When they come back up its with force and big splash.
However, if you allow emotions the beachball of emotions just sits on top of the water riding out the waves. It’s much easier to handle them.
4. Give yourself grace in the moment
Emergencies bring up lots of emotions and feelings. You don’t need to judge yourself for being extra emotional. Of course you are going to emotional. It’s natural to be.
You may not have as much energy as you normally do. Your body may require extra down time. Go with the flow of what your body is telling you you need. Maybe you need time to watch some Netflix and maybe you need a walk. Listen to your body and it will let you know what you need. Don’t should yourself into doing what you think you should be doing.
Your house may not be as clean or your eating as good as it normally is. This is all ok. Allow yourself grace in this stressful situation.
Remember that it is important to feel those feelings during stressful times in life. There is no wrong or right way to do this. Your experience is going to be different than the next persons, so don’t compare yourself.
When you find yourself needing help with your emotions, reach out to me. I’d love to help you feel your feelings. Simply schedule a time at this link for your free help.
Until Next Time
-Keira
