Are you beating yourself up for mistakes, not being good enough, or anything else. Learn how to feel better by giving yourself grace. You already know how to give others grace, learn how to apply it to yourself too.
What is Grace?
According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary grace is defined as ”an act or instance of kindness” or “temporary exemption.”
Who deserves Grace?
Who do you give grace to? I often find myself giving grace to the mom with a crying baby in the store or my friend when her house is messy, etc. It has not been natural or easy for me to learn to give myself grace.
Why give myself grace?
Why is okay for my best friend’s house to be trashed after the stomach flu goes thru all of them, but not my house? Is it really a problem? No, my guess is if we did a poll that its that way for the majority of homes. Then why do we hold ourselves to higher standards than the dear people we love? We are just as deserving of grace as they are.
When should I give myself grace?
Often times we think we are letting ourselves off the hook, if we extend ourselves grace. So how do we know when we are trying to get out of something and we are extending grace? You can answer that with one question. How does it feel? Does it feel like loving yourself or like punishing yourself? When it feels like a punishment, you aren’t giving yourself grace. You are forcing yourself to push thru. If it feels good to you and loving, that my friend is grace!
How do I give myself grace?
Allow yourself grace on a regular basis. Maybe its in the little things: I forgot to grab another gallon of milk, or I just snapped at my kiddos, or I don’t feel well today. It also applies to the big things: I really just lost my crap on my kids, or my spouse just had surgery, or all the kids are home today unexpectedly. Either way we can look at the situation, acknowledge the human struggle we are having, and see what we need in the moment. That may look like not beating ourselves up for a mistake, acknowledging the stress in our lives right now, or even allowing ourselves to stop with a commitment temporarily. There is no wrong or right way to show yourself grace. Struggling to know how you should extend yourself grace, start looking for how you extend it to others and offer yourself the same grace too.
You’ve got this mama! And as always, I’m excited and willing to help you walk thru this process on a FREE Explore Coaching Call with me. Until next time, have a very human experience this week.
— Keira
