Do you spend all your time trying to make the perfect Christmas happen? Perfect for everyone else and you feel forgotten? Let’s not do that again this year. You deserve to enjoy Christmas too!
If you are anything like me, by the time Christmas comes you just want it to be over. You’ve put hours into thinking about everyone else: the kids, your spouse, all the extended family, school and church teachers, EVERYONE! Everyone but you.
Dream about Christmas
What if this year is different? What if you can make it magical for them and yourself? What would that look like? Daydream about it for awhile. Maybe even write it all down on a piece of paper. What do you love to do for Christmas and what do you dread going to do?
Does it look like more things or less things? Things can mean traditions, foods, presents, events, etc. Do you tend to over plan what you are capable of? I know I do. I’m getting better at knowing my limits, but it has taken time to learn them.
Make Your Christmas Happen
Pick from your day dreaming what you want Christmas to look like this year. Do you want it simple, magical, family oriented, social, etc. The sky is the limit. But once you know what Christmas is going to look like for you, then reassess everything you normally do. Does that align with what you want Christmas to look like?
I wanted more time to relax and enjoy my family during Christmas. That means we cut out neighbor gifts, Christmas cards, and some social actvities. Gasp! I know. But it was lovely. Nobody missed the screaming kids in the car delivering goodies. Or the random Christmas activity. I did learn that I missed sending out Christmas cards.
It’s all a matter of trial and error learning what we like. I felt guilty not going to some social activities, because I tend to like pleasing everyone. But I reminded myself that going when I don’t want to go is lying. I’m not fun to be around when I’m extra stressed about being out late with the kids a bunch. We don’t end up enjoying it anyways. So we have learned that no thanks is an excellent answer to invites sometimes.
So dream up your perfect Christmas. Make decsions on those priorities and don’t be afraid to say no to some things. Or to start different traditions. Kids are resilient and they will love the new ideas too. My kids even love the slowing down a bit during the season.
Blocked yourself from daydreaming and don’t know how to exercise that muscle? Hope on a free 30 minute call with me and we can do it together. You deserve a delightful Christmas too mama.
Until Next Time
-Keira
