Today I’m going to write to all the new moms out there. People have lots of unsolicited advice for you. It is overwhelming trying to decide what to take and what to leave.
So here is the advice I wish someone would have given me 14 years ago when I started my parenting journey. I now have four kids, some neurotypical and some neurodivergent.
Love Yourself
My advice to you is to love yourself through the journey.
Baby comes and it gets so busy. You spend all this time taking care of baby’s every need and your needs get pushed aside. You add more children and you get even less time for yourself.
I’m not saying you have to hire a babysitter and leave your baby. But pay attention to what you need. Maybe it is a break from the kids, but maybe its something to eat besides leftover chicken nuggets. Perhaps its being patient with yourself during the hard times.
If you value your needs at least as much as your kiddos and husband’s needs, your life will be so much better. Don’t be afraid to have ask for help getting those needs met.
You Matter Too
My second piece of advice is to keep your own opinions and interests. It gets easy to love dance because Suzie loves to dance and cars because Tommy loves cars. But what do you love to do? What do you love to eat? What lights you up to talk about?
Continue to have those “adult conversations” somehow. Find somewhere to volunteer in that area or keep up on the latest. Don’t loose yourself in everyone else in your family. Stay true to who you are as a person. It is a lot easier to be your authentic self than it is to rediscover yourself and change down the road.
So please be yourself. That’s what this world needs and your kiddos too. Make friends that are your friends because you share interests not just because they are Suzie’s friend’s mom. She is good to know too. But keep your own people around too.
Are you thinking, Keira but I already lost myself to motherhood? Then jump on a call with me, because that is exactly what I do as a Life Coach for Stay at Home Moms. I help you find yourself and enjoy your life again. Let’s get you started on that path. You deserve it mama!
Until Next Time
-Keira
