t Are you feeling down about your life? Self gratitude is the key to improving your life quality. No more waiting on others to appreciate you. You can be in control of if you are appreciated without manipulating others.
What is Self Gratitude
We often hear that gratitude is key to being happy, but have you ever thought to be grateful for yourself. I’m not talking about becoming a egotistical or prideful. Self gratitude is simply appreciating yourself: your body, your mind, the things you’ve accomplished, your dreams, and anything else you are grateful for about you.
Why have Self Gratitude
Often times we wait for others to tell us, “good job mama!” or “how can I help you mama?” But then we are left waiting for others to see all the thankless jobs we do as mamas, wives, etc. I don’t know about you, but I can wait for a very long time for my kiddos to realize all that I do for them. It leaves me feeling bitter and resentful! I want them to say thanks every once in a while.
Yet I taught my kids to say thanks for dinner, and now it means nothing to me. I told them to say it. They say it even if they hated what I made them. It feels shallow and insincere to me. Spoiler alert: I manipulated them into saying it everyday and that doesn’t feel good. Any time we try to get someone else to do what we think they should, it’s a form of manipulation. Manipulation usually doesn’t feel good after the fact.
So instead, enter self gratitude. Learn to be grateful for yourself and what you have done. Then you don’t have to manipulate others to feel good. Plus we are in control of when we are appreciated. The bonus of it all, is when someone else says “thanks” or “good job” then we can soak up that up too.
How to Achieve Self Gratitude
Self gratitude is an easy concept, but can be difficult to master. We have culturally been trained to not brag, be prideful, etc. So because of that we put ourselves down or think we aren’t good enough which is the opposite of gratitude.
The first step is not to judge ourselves for where we are. You are human being with a human brain. End of story. That is your circumstance. Do not add your thoughts to that. You know the ones where you don’t look the way you want to, or aren’t doing the things you want to be doing, etc. Every time a thought pops up in your mind about yourself, just remind yourself that you are a human being with a human brain.
After you get good at that, then start looking for things you like about yourself. It can be about your personality, looks, the way your body or brain works properly, things it can do for you, etc. Some people do this at a certain time each day or you can do it every time you think something negative about yourself.
It can be helpful to write out a list of 100 things you like about yourself to get started. If 100 things is too many start at 5, 10, or 25. Start with what you can come up with, and then keep adding to the list. Watch for things you are grateful to yourself for.
Speed Up the Process of Self Gratitude
You can totally shape up your relationship with yourself on your own just like you can start lifting weights to build muscle on your own. Or you can speed up the process of building muscle by hiring a personal trainer. You can also speed up the process of loving yourself and your life by hiring a life coach. Life coaches help you take care of your mental health. To explore more of what a life coach can do for you in your life schedule a FREE explore coaching call now. I can’t wait to meet you.
