Keira Brown Coaching

Hate Where You Live

Hi there! Mom of four here with one amazing husband! But let’s step back in time a bit. My husband had gotten a job promotion, so we picked up our lives and moved to Wyoming. Everyone is always telling me they want to live in Wyoming, but I don’t think those people have actually been here. I find it quite depressing most days: its shades of brown most of the year, the wind really blows A LOT, and there are rattlesnakes everywhere. Did I mention we are an hour from town. That means if you run out of milk, well you are just out of milk until next town day. Who wants to drive one hour one way for a gallon of milk? My kiddos have an 11-hour school day by the time they ride the bus and we leave the house by 6:05 AM. Anyone inspired to come move out here and be my neighbor?

I know, I know you all think it would be romantic to live out away from people. You spend hours in the car running kids to all the events, you have pesky neighbors, and would just love the peace and quiet. But its not what you think it is living out here. No neighbors equal no playdates, no one to watch your kids in the case of an emergency like your husband splitting his head open, no one knows if you haven’t left the house in days cause croup is going thru all six of you, and nobody to wave hello to and smile at. It gets really lonely, really quick. No quick trips to the library or park when you are going insane.

But you say Keira, you’re living in nature and your kids are learning to have a work ethic. They can have the opportunity to have horses, chickens, and pigs. You can all go with Bryant to work as a family. You can see so many stars at night and hear the crickets chirping. It seems so amazing!

Well even in Wyoming life is still 50/50. Half good and half crappy. Just the same as at your house. Mine just looks a little different than yours. You wish the neighbor kids would stop coming by uninvited. I wish my kids had neighbors to practice social skills with. You wish everyone didn’t expect you to come to every function. I wish people would consider that I spend $35 every time I come to town. So even though I would love to have kids involved in sports, I just can’t afford it if we want to eat and keep everyone mentally healthy.

This has been a hard adjustment for me, living in the middle of nowhere. I grew up in towns with populations less than 1,500 people. This concept of 50/50 has helped me realize that it doesn’t matter where I live its still going to be hard sometimes. So now I know to look for the positive 50/50. I always appreciate that my neurodivergent kids and go run all they want outside. I don’t have to worry about cars and roads and strangers. I love driving home from the bus stop in the morning when my car is empty and just marveling at the sunrise God created for me today, before stepping back into the chaos. I love having the ability to stay in my pjs when tired and having a 99% chance that no one will ever see me.

So, what does your 50/50 look like in your life? Do you create extra drama for yourself by focusing on the negative 50? Need help getting out of that negative 50? Give me a holler. I can help with that as a Certified Life Coach.